Changing Relationships
Relationships are often strained by parenthood, no matter what they were like before. Part of the problem is that you have so much less time to spend with each other than you did before the baby arrived and it's so much harder to get out together and enjoy the things you used to do.
- Your partner may feel left out
- You may feel resentful at what you see as lack of support
The really hard time, when children take up all your energy doesn't last forever. Try to make time for each other when you can and do little things to make each other feel cared for and included.
Don't expect your partner, however close you are to read your mind. Things are changing in both your lives and you really need to talk about it so that you understand how each other is feeling.
- If you can, ask a friend or relative to babysit so that you can have time together - even if it's just for a walk.
- Share the housework if you can.
Relationships with other people are more than likely to change too. Try to remember that everyone around you is getting used to the changes that a new baby brings, just as you are. Talking to each other about how you feel helps. Alternatively speaking to someone outside of your immediate household, such as your Connexions Personal Adviser or a friend might help.
